When I think if family I believe it is our loves ones who will always be there when you need them. Everybody doesn’t have the typical nuclear family. We all have different structural make ups of what we consider our family. My family right now is my mom, five brothers, three sisters, all of their spouses and my boyfriend. They are all my family. They mean the world to me and always will be center of my heart and soul. I love and care for them deeply, emotionally and spiritually.
In essence, they are my centered universe. Much of my past, present and future happiness is much of their help and guidance. I owe them the world and always try to let them know they mean a lot to me. I think they already know. Now, families come in all sizes, shapes, forms or structures. One person might have only one other person and that’s their family. A single mom with no husband and five kids, that’s her family. There are several forms of what each person themselves considers their own family unit. We all can go back to our cousins, aunts, uncles, second cousins, grandparents, great aunts and so forth. Those are usually once or twice a year seen type of family. They’re not really close in my own family. I do somewhat consider somewhat them family but not especially close like my own family.
Brother Braden will be first in the family to have a child. I myself don’t know if David and I will be able to make our own family- meaning our own children. That’s pretty much unclear at this point but ya never know these days. Since age seven or so I did have a dad. He was there and picked my brothers and I up on weekends. I remembered mom would be sad when we left. Dad drowned a long a canal when I was seven. I remembered he spoiled me. He was a cool dad. Mom was an excellent nurse who worked a lot to raise the nine of us kids. We all came out pretty good. We’re all gentlemen and ladies who are considerate and very loving. So mom shouldn’t complain at being a bad parent. We participated in sports, band stuff, school stuff so it was nice going to school.
My family of a mom, five brothers and three sisters is really big. You better have gotten your own dinner or you missed out. There were always fights but mom settled it with getting your hands up at corner for certain amount of time or a whipping with a hanger or pear field stick. We all had chores we were supposed to do. During summer we got wet most of the time in our small swimming pool. Fall schools started. When we went to school shopping it was always fun. In winter, sledding was always fun. We also went inter tubing too during winter. Mom took us on a lot of camping trips, long ride trips and trips along Columbia River. We always had fun. We almost always took lunches and hardly went out to eat. Its quite expensive if you took all of us out to eat. Too much money and probably a big hassle to take us out at once. So I’m very pleased with the family I have.
Now with my boyfriends family it is very different. As a baby infant, he was adopted out. He stayed with Lona and her mom most of his life. He did have brothers and sisters but no blood ones like me. His grandma Ida was closest to his heart so you can say this was his biggest family. She passed away a few years ago. That hurt him tremendously. Now his main family is me and my own family. I fear my cancer will take me 3-15 years and he won’t have anyone and that scares me. He honestly is a true hearted guy.
Family is very important to me. I love all of my family dearly and would cut an arm and a leg off for them. Family units are always growing. They grow spiritually, physically and mentally. I can’t wait to see Braden’s child. That’s exciting to me. I plan for my own child but with my cancer type its really rare and I think unheard of. But there’s always hope. I thank God mom for having a huge family and never adopting any of use out or even thoughts of abortion. I love my mom, all my brothers, all my sisters and my wonderful boyfriend. I also love all their spouses who keep them happy as well. Welcome to the family and enjoy our good times that will continue.
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